“Your worth is not measured by your productivity.”
Read that again.
We do this, don’t we? We measure our worth by how much we have to do, by the amount of things we are busy doing, or by what we accomplish. Those things DO NOTdefine us or our value as people. Let’s hash this out together.
How Much We Have To Do
We don’t feel valued unless we are needed by people. Yep, we sometimes feel lost if we aren’t running around helping, supporting, doing, fixing, rescuing. As soon as we have any downtime, we’re looking for that next thing we can do for others. We can feel devalued if we don’t have enough to do at work, too. We might tend to feel less important or less “in charge” if we don’t always have a full plate.
How Much We Are Doing
We make lists, and the more things we check off each day, the greater pride we feel. We tend to keep score, right? Are we doing enough? Enough for what? Are we doing too much? What does “too much” mean anyway? Did we do everything we should have done? Should have? (I’m even guilty of adding a task to my list just so I can check it off and feel good about myself. The worst! Don’t tell anybody!)
How Much We Accomplish
At the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow, we lie awake going back over the day, assessing our progress, and declaring whether it was a “good day” by how much we accomplished. We brag a little when we get it all done, yet our hearts sink with disappointment when we fall short.So how do we fix this? Well, I think we start by challenging our own thoughts. If we frequently feel like failures, have trouble feeling motivated, and are often dejected about work, we need to ask ourselves why. It might be that we place too much emphasis on completing tasks in order to feel successful.
Next, let’s work to separate ourselves from work “stuff” to feel valuable. It might be helpful to remember that it is the depth and goodness of our hearts, how we treat others, our compassion, and so much more that truly determine our value as human beings.
And lastly, I think we try to form new perspectives. If we don’t get it all done today, so what? What if we say “no” and not take this project on? What if we let that laundry sit and take a nap instead? What if we get up from the assignment, go out in the sunshine, and finish it tomorrow? Our inability to not do (or not want to do) all the things does not make us worthless.
Studio Owners and Dance Teachers, we are enough. We are lovers of children and life changers. We are dream makers and manufacturers of magic. We are coaches, mentors, and role models. Keep all that in mind, and never allow productivity to define you.
Amanda Herring LOVES her job! Owner of Center Stage Dance in Hernando, MS, she is passionate about sharing the love of dance while inspiring and encouraging everyone who walks through her door. She loves BIG and has a heart for new dancers joining a class for the first time. She takes pride in offering stellar service to dance families and specializes in efficiency, organization, fair policies, and strong communication. Her shows are HUGE with plenty of lights, effects, and stagecraft. Amanda wants her students to feel like they are a part of something big, and it is always her goal to bring more to class and to the stage than her audience is expecting.